P2YL | 37. Second chance at love: my story

My midlife route from devastated divorcée to happily remarried

What I learnt en route from devastated divorcée to happily remarried 

• I thought I was in a strong marriage but my husband had left me for someone else. I had thought it could never happen to me.

•  I was worried that all chance of romantic happiness had gone but somehow I stepped out with a little bit of faith and a little bit of determination. 

• I knew I’d up my chances if I pushed myself to be a bit more sociable though at heart I tend to be both shy and lazy.

• Learning to feel comfortable around men again was just practice. Meetup Groups with subjects that were popular with menfolk proved invaluable for getting used to meeting them again as a newly single woman and learning to feel friendly and calm while doing so.

• For more ideas on the topic of meeting potential friends and partners, read my feature P2YL | 42. Where do I meet eligible men?

• Patience and persistence pay off. Instinctively I knew it might take time, a long time. It took nearly 10 years to meet my husband Tim, to whom I’m now been married nearly as long.

• But through it all, though I sometimes felt I was back at Square One, I had faith I was heading in the right direction. 

Now I want to encouage you if you're in Part 2 Of Your (Love?) Life and feeling unsure about the whole thing

Words by Kate Chapman.

Photography: Jenny Photography

Appeared first in Woman's Weekly, 18 June 2024, issue no. 25.

Reproduced here with kind permission